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50 pieces of unsolicited advice for my fellow millennials

Kwebang Lampas

So this article has been sitting in my draft for almost one and a half year now. I’m not sure how I’d finish writing it by then, but finally, I’ve got to gather my thoughts now that times have changed drastically.

These are some tips I learned throughout my early to mid-20s and I would like to share these pieces of biblical wisdom you may also apply at times of uncertainties like what we’re going through right now.

 

Life and personal growth

1. It’s natural to feel angry, but your response to anger is something you can control. Forgive if anyone has offended you. Control your emotions or else your emotions will control you. (Ephesians 4:26, Proverbs 19:11, Colossians 3:13, Job 6:14)

2. Exercise, eat healthily, and dress appropriately. Take care of your body and be intentional with rest. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Psalm 127:2)

3. Improve the skills and gifts God has given you. Be hungry to learn. (Matthew 25:14-30)

4. You’ll discover who you are when you understand who your Creator is. (Psalm 139:13-16)

5. Surround yourself with people who will build you up. (Proverbs 12:26, Proverbs 27:17, Proverbs 13:20, 1 Corinthians 15:33)

6. Choose your battles carefully. (1 Timothy 6: 12, 20)

7. You are a steward of God’s resources. Use your time, energy, and money to honor God. (Ephesians 5:15-16, Proverbs 3:9, Luke 21:1-4)

8. Do not care so much about physical appearance. Work on the goodness of the heart. (Proverbs 31:30, 1 Samuel 16:7)

9. Don’t wait for life to happen. If you believe your request is aligned with God’s plans and it follows what the Bible says, be in faith and act in faith. (Mark 11:24, Matthew 21:22)

10. Most important: Protect your time with God. Always strive to pray and listen to Him. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, Matthew 6:6, Job 22:27, Isaiah 26:3, Joshua 1:8)

 

Family and household

11.  Put God in the center of your home. (Hebrews 3:4, Isaiah 32:18)

12. Always make time to share the love of Christ with your family. Lead the prayer before mealtime with them. It helps. (Colossians 3:14, Acts 16:31-34)

13. Honor your parents. (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:1-3, 1 Peter 5:5, Proverbs 13:1, Proverbs 6:20, Proverbs 23:15)

14. Teach little children the ways of God. Invest your time and attention to pass down what you know about the Lord. (Deuteronomy 6:5-7, Proverbs 22:6)

15. Even as you grow older, your brothers and sisters will still get into your nerves from time to time. Extend never-ending patience to one another. (Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 5:21, 1 John 4:20, Romans 12:18)

16. Your family is your first ministry. Do not neglect taking care of them. (Proverbs 17:17, 1 Timothy 5:8, Genesis 47:12)

17. Bring your family love, honor, and peace. Obey God and bring blessings to your household. (Joshua 6:25) Don’t be the one to cause discord among yourselves because of sin and disobedience. (Proverbs 11:29, Proverbs 17:6, Colossians 3:15, Ephesians 4:3)

18. Cherish the oneness of your parents, or you and your spouse. (Mark 10:9) Demonstrate godly love to the younger generation.

19. Do not provoke those under your authority at home. (Colossians 3:21)

20. Clear your house of any false images of other gods, and make your house a place of worship to God. (Genesis 35:2)

 

Career and finance

21. How you look and what you do do not define you. It’s about your character, not your paycheck nor position. (1 Samuel 16:7)

22. God sees your insecurities. Do not cover it with successes. (Psalm 55:22, Proverbs 12:11)

23. Stop complaining and be patient; allow yourself to be stretched. (Ephesians 4:29, 1 Corinthians 4:12, 1 Thessalonians 4:11)

24. Stay hungry for learning. Have joy. Always be teachable. (Proverbs 12:1, Colossians 3:23)

25. Don’t be blinded by power and money. Count the reward you get in heaven more than on earth. (John 6:27, Matthew 6:19-21)

26. Give respect to the authority. Do your duty with absolute willingness and integrity, so long as it doesn’t oppose God’s law. (Romans 13:1-2, Colossians 3:22, Titus 2:9-10)

27. Treat everyone fairly and serve everyone well. (Philippians 2:3-4, Deuteronomy 24:14)

28. Maintain harmony among your colleagues. (Matthew 5:9)

29. Plan ahead and prepare excellently. (Proverbs 6:6-11)

30. Offer your wealth to God and bless others generously. (Proverbs 3:9–10, Deuteronomy 15:10)

 

Singleness and courtship

31. A relationship is God’s idea. He created the role of males and females, husbands, and wives. Abide by it. (Genesis 2:18)

32. God’s gift is for those who are ready to receive it. Let God mold you and prepare you. (Matthew 7:11)

33. Stop focusing on your singleness. If you’re not happy in your season of singleness, you won’t be happy in your season of marriage. Allow God to make you whole. An earthly relationship will not fix your longing for genuine love. (Psalm 37:4, 1 Thessalonians 5:23, 1 John 4:8)

34. God sees your desires and eagerness. Do not be afraid to make your requests known to Him but also, do not rush His seasons. (2 Peter 3:8, Lamentations 3:25-26, James 4:3)

35. Seek wisdom from a married person, someone ahead of you who can guide you. (Proverbs 11:14)

36. Practice accountability. Tell someone about what’s going on in your personal life but not everyone. (James 5:16)

37. Observe purity. Do not put malice in your thoughts. Do not assume, tease, gossip, mislead, and flirt. (1 Corinthians 10:31, 2 Timothy 2:22, 2 Corinthians 10:5)

38. There is never a perfect time to be ready, only trust in God’s appointed season for you. Do not fear to be rejected. Jesus was denied many times but still, He loved the church. (Psalm 56:3)

39. Know how a friend should act. Clear your intentions with yourself and set boundaries so you don’t send mixed signals to the opposite sex. (1 Corinthians 14:33)

40. Remember that marriage is not the goal, but God will use it as a tool to advance His Kingdom. Do not focus on finding a person compatible with you, but seek someone who is suitable for you to accomplish God’s mission. Make sure that person loves God, too. Compatibility and suitability are two different things, and what distinguishes the one from the other is the purpose. Ask yourself, will this person help you get closer to Jesus or distract you? (Genesis 2:18)

 

Friendship

41. Outdo each other in appreciating, comforting, and encouraging. Lend an ear and cheer them up. (Proverbs 22:11, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Romans 12:15)

42. Be glad to serve your friends, just like how Jesus washed the feet of Peter even when he betrayed Him. (1 Peter 4:8-10, John 13:14–17)

43. Do not rank the quality of relationships/friendships. (James 2:1)

44. When a friend gives you advice, test everything. If it is sound counsel, allow them to influence you for good. Be humble enough to listen. (Proverbs 19:20, Proverbs 13:20, Proverbs 27:9)

45. Friction happens to people who are close. See God’s purpose in your friendships that even when you are hurt after a confrontation/rebuke from a friend, you know that godly friendship will help you grow. (Proverbs 27:5-6, Proverbs 27:17)

46. Pray for your friends. (1 Thessalonians 5:25, Philippians 2:4, Galatians 6:2)

47. Share your strengths, and fill one another’s weaknesses. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

48. Discern who to consider a friend. Define what friendship is. (1 Corinthians 15:33, Proverbs 12:26, James 4:4)

49. You are not meant to carry life’s sorrows alone. Connect with a community. (Ephesians 2:22, 1 Corinthians 12:26)

50. Treat your friends with the utmost respect. Even at times when you have differences, remember that God is the center of your friendship and you both are going by the same road. (Proverbs 17:9, Amos 3:3)

 

That’s it for now. I hope and pray that you will go through your season with full confidence in God. Let’s keep fighting and living for His glory 🙂

 

Wonderfilled Journal Louise

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